Loving Myself After Kids
Meet Jesse Coulter from Austin, Texas. She lives with her husband and three children, and shares her experience loving herself after having kids.
Over the past 4 years I’ve carried and birthed three children. I was lucky enough to have smooth pregnancies and healthy babies, but it’s been a process to love my body after having kids. People can tell you all day long what changes your body will experience during pregnancy and postpartum, but it’s not real until you actually go through it.
After each pregnancy, it’s taken me a few months to get back into the swing of a workout routine, even though I enjoy exercising. I work full-time, blog on the side, and spend a few hours after work making dinner, cleaning and trying to get my wild kids to bed. With moderate exercising (around 2 times per week), it usually takes me about a year to get to a point where I’m comfortable with my weight. Currently, my twins are 15 months, and I weigh 10 lbs. more than when I found out I was pregnant with them although for some reason I feel the same.
My hips have widened, my breasts have thinned out, and none of my jeans fit, but I’m comfortable in my body.
Swimsuit shopping is not fun for most women, but this year I told myself I was going to be confident in my mom bod and not worry so much about my imperfections while staring at my body in the mirror.
Honestly, my biggest advice would be to understand that people don’t care about you as much as you think they do.
Not that your friends and family don’t love you, but they are not staring at your body and judging your imperfections. You are your worst critic. Can you think of a friend who constantly critiques their own body? Do you disagree with them, and see their beauty rather than their imperfections? I have friends who have made negative comments about their body repeatedly, and I want to shake them and say,
You are beautiful, tell yourself that.
If you are hard on yourself when trying on swimsuits, take a friend or two and make a fun trip out of it. Enjoy a meal, have a drink, share in your imperfections and know that your friends and family love you just the way you are.
I am not the stick thin girl I was in high school. I have hips, a butt and saggy boobs and that’s OK.
I grew three humans in my body, delivered them, and raised them. I am a woman, which still feels weird to say sometimes. I feel like a kid at heart most days, so embracing my aging body can be a challenge. I focus on what I have accomplished, not what I haven’t. I believe exercise is important for every human, not only physically but mentally. I may weigh more than I did 2 years ago, but I feel strong and confident because I push myself when exercising. I want to be the best example I can be for my children.
Remember mothers, you have sacrificed your body and so much more to raise your family. Be kind to yourself and focus on your strengths not your weaknesses.
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